The Call

On Thursday December 4,2008 we received "the call".I was at work and Love instant messaged me saying that our Social Worker called and said she had a 1 month old baby for us!!!Right at that moment the door opened at the office...(No one had came in for the last 2 hours I had been there).So after what seemed like an eternity I was able to call Love. We talked about the situation and told our Socail Worker we would be interested in the situation.She asked when could we see her. We both said we could be on our way now.When we got to the Adoption Agency we were told more about the situation and we decided the baby would be a perfect match for us.We will be picking him up on 12/10/08.When we told Precious Daughter she jumped up and down for about 5 minutes.At first it wasn't sinking in yet. I think it won't be real until He's home with us.So our adoption journey took 9 months and 5 days!!!Our social worker made the comment that she thinks that adoptive parents have a sixth sense about when they have a match...because remember I called her on Wednesday.She said she knew then but she could not say anything because she was waiting on medical paper work.

December Update

I called the Social Worker today, to ask how long our homestudy would be valid and if we needed to do any thing to our profile.She said that the profile was perfect and that our homestudy would be good for 2 years and that we would have a baby long before it will be time to renew it.She said the agency had several moms they were working with and wanted to know what we were doing for Christmas and I told her we had nothing planned.I told her about an up comming trip and she asked who would be keeping Precious Daughter.I told her that my mother in law would be.As usual she ended our conversation with "hope to be talking to you soon".All I can say is that it was an interesting conversation and that I am not going to read anything into it.I know that when we are meant to get our son we will.
On the home front the nursery is complete all we need is a baby and diapers (still can't decide which ones to use).Precious Daughter is a bit discouraged because it is taking so long to get a baby brother.I try to be encouraging.....but I know how she feels.

October update

I spoke with our socialworker who stated that one of the offices called and wanted to know if we were still available to be shown to a few of the mothers they were currently working with.She said she called them back and left a message stating that we were eagerly waiting.She told me that she did not know any of the mothers' due date and that she would call me when she heard anything.After a week of not hearing from her I called her back and she said she still hasn't heard anything. This could mean several things:1.) the mothers have due dates that are far off, 2.)we were not chosen,and or 3.)the social worker still doesn't know .It's been at least 2 weeks from when I spoke with our socialworker but who knows.

Update

On Tuesday, we spoke with our Social Worker who said that we had been chosen by not 1 but 2 possible situations. The mothers decided to parent , which is great because they can keep their families together. I guess we should be sad, but we are both happy that we were even considered for not 1 but 2 possible situations. We were also told that the agency is working with several mothers at the current time.She also said that she hoped to talk to us soon. I am probaly reading into this but how cool would it be for us to get the call soon!!So we continue to patiently wait.

Thoughts

I have been praying that if our son is out there growing in a Mommy's tummy that God watches over them both and keeps them healthy and safe.I have also been praying that God leads and guides his first Mommy in making the decision that is right for them both.On a selfish note I have been praying that I am able to deal with the wait...the long,long wait.I know that everything happens in God's timming but I am anxious to see how everything will play out and when it will play out.I can't wait for our family to be complete.

More Waiting

Originally I had promised myself that I would not call the adoption agency until 5/28/08 (3 month mark of waiting) to check and see if our interim social worker had heard anything.Well, I called last Wednesday and was told that our local office had no mothers...and that she did not know about the other offices.Well it really doesn't matter about the local office since we requested not to be shown to local mothers!!!We requested to be shown to mothers in neighboring towns.I guess I was and am a little dissatisfied with her response because it seems as if she would have been touching base with neighboring offices and that basically she responded as if I were bothering her. I will chalk it up to maybe she ws having a bad day.In 3 more months I will call the adoption agency again and hopefully our social worker will be back from medical leave or our interim social worker will be having a better day.

Thoughts

Where to start...Have you ever just been so happy you can not stop smiling and do not want to?Well that's how I've been feeling the past few months.I don't know if it is because we are closer than we have ever been to completing our family or what.I hope it is the fact that I am more aware of how God is so good!! What I do know is that I am constantly thanking God for all he has brought us through. At work when one of my clients come in and complains about what they don't have. I always tell them it could always be worst and that we should always be thankful for what we do have.Thinking back ....when Love and I first got married we had nothing, materialistically but we did have three very important things we had Faith, Each other, and Family.We may have wanted for things but we have never went without anything.With all we have been through one thing I can honestly say is that I have never doubted God's ability to lead us and guide us through everything and I am a very strong believer that God will never give us more than we can handle.
OK on the adoption front we have officially been waiting a month and two days!!
The nursery is pretty much complete. Love picked Michigan to be the theme.We are still excited.I have been picturing how things will play out.I know the perfect situation is out there for us and I can't wait to bring our new bundle of joy home. Now the task at hand is to prepare Precious Daughter to be able to cope with not being the only child.She told me before that she is "used to sharing mommy but not her daddy, because mommy you like holding babies." Everything that brings to mind something that she done when she was a baby we share with her.To try to give her an idea of what to expect.We are also constantly asking her how she feels about being a Big Sister. She says she is excited, but will be more excited when the baby gets here. To me that's understandable, that he is not as real to her as he will be.We have been letting her know that when the baby does get here if we are doing something and the baby needs his diaper changed or to be fed that mommy or daddy will have to stop to do that. Right now she seems to understand but I guess time will tell. Love and I have been talking about how we will make sure that Precious Daughter has one on one time with both of us.